Parenting pressures‘I feel my husband hasn’t stepped up with looking after the toddler’

As heard on Today with Miriam

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Clinical Child Psychologist David Coleman joined Miriam O’Callaghan on the Today programme to answer parenting queries.

A listener got in touch to say that she has been growing more and more frustrated as her husband appears to be avoiding getting involved when it comes to their 2-and-a-half year old toddler.  They had another baby 9 months ago and the listener says it’s been a time of conflict.

She says her husband hasn’t ‘stepped up’ and doesn’t spend time playing with him, and is dismissive when the child has tantrums.

“This is exacerbated by the fact that my toddler has a significant speech delay and we’re awaiting intervention. I’m getting very frustrated with my husband.”

David agrees that this situation must be putting a strain on their marriage, and says that the Dad may actually need practice with it comes to parenting.

“It would be great for the mum and the dad if they were singing off the same page in terms of having a shared sense of how you actually deal with small children.”

David says that the burden of parenting both children needs to be shared equally between the husband and wife.

“If [the toddler] has a speech delay and so he can’t yet communicate that, then it is up to the Dad to work this stuff out and it sounds like the Dad, as yet, doesn’t put the effort in.”

To listen to David’s advice in full, click play above, or for more from the Today programme, click here.

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