First Dates Bernie ‘When you’re a single parent… you have to keep life as normal as possible and there was never a good time to die.’

As heard on The Ryan Tubridy Show

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Bernie Murray entered the First Dates restaurant looking for someone tall, bald and tattooed.  Not only did she find someone who fit that description, but he was a someone she already knew and had a bit of a crush on.  Sounds like a dream date, and… it was!

The effervescent Bernie spoke to Ryan Tubridy this Valentine’s Day about her loved-up evening on First Dates and about staying upbeat despite the trials that life has thrown at her in the past.  Disaster struck for Bernie when she was diagnosed with cancer and her biggest concern was for her daughter.

“I had to keep going for her.  You know, when you’re a single parent, and your child is going through a big transition from sixth class to first year, you have to keep life as normal as possible and there was never a good time to die.  You couldn’t die at night because she’d find you before she went to school.  You couldn’t die when she was at school because she’d find you when she came home from school so you just had to stay alive.”

Stay alive Bernie did, battling and eventually beating cancer and getting back in the saddle to look for love.  Tragically, Bernie’s mum passed away in the week before the show was due to film.  She was going to cancel the date but she knew her mother would be egging her on to take the chance.  As for her date, Bernie says,

“He works locally so I had seen him a few times and thought, yeah, that’s not bad now at all, I wouldn’t mind a taste of that!”

Despite a dream date that had viewers oohing and aahing over the ideal match, the love story wasn’t to be.  Bernie said she has heard radio silence from her date ever since, but she hasn’t come away with any bad feelings.

“Anybody who’s thinking of going on it, go for it because it’s a really good experience.”

Click here to listen to Bernie’s chat with Ryan in full.

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